The Most Important Lessons I’ve Learned From My Mother

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Quilted Cara Convertible Bag in Cloud Gray c/o Vera Bradley | Denim Bardot shirt c/o CAbi Online | Earrings via H&M | Elizabeth & James sunnies c/o DITTO | Ring c/o Bohemian River  | Piazza Pants c/o CAbi Online

To celebrate Mother’s Day, I wanted to share with you cabi’s e-gift card opportunity to give you the chance to thank your own mother in a meaningful way! I’ve been partnering with cabi for a few years now and I love the Find a cabi Stylist link that allows you to connect with a Stylist. You can also use it find out more about the gift card.

Cabi offers so many different casual and mix-ready styles that work season to season. This spring, the chambray shirt is staying strong and works well to mix with these white linen pants (which I’ll be reaching for all summer).

A basic palette like this makes room for fun extras like these trendy tassel earrings and my new quilted Cara convertible bag from Vera Bradley. The company is branching out to include a new line of all-leather handbags with the signature prints original to each bag.

This one has an interchangeable strap converts the bags from a shoulder to a crossbody (my fave!) and the inside has a ton of storage with two slips, a back pocket, and a zip pocket added. Complete with custom gold-toned hardware and metal feet to protect the bottom of the bag, the brand is definitely moving into a more modern direction!

See me for a special discount on the new items at the Millenia Mall in Orlando!

On to the women of the day!

For those of you who know me, you know that my mother is my rock. She is one of those people you rarely come across in your lifetime who has the power to impart her positive and charismatic spirit throughout any room.  To know her is to love her and I feel incredibly blessed to call her my own mother.

Since I’ve been a child, there have been many lessons I’ve learned from my mom. Throughout her own life, she’s undergone many hardships and transitions that have made her a more open and optimistic person.

So without further adieu, I want to share with you the most important life lessons I’ve learned from my own mother in hopes that you’ll glean some of her wisdom as I have. 🙂

It could always be worse.

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned from my mom would be this. She loves to tell my brother and myself things like “if you think you have it bad, think about the man down the street who lost his leg and he seems pretty happy!”. We always rolled our eyes at her when she would say these things, but looking back they really are true. You could always have it worse and what seems bad at the moment most likely won’t be something you’ll even remember even a year down the road.

Be thankful for what you have.

Piggy-backing off of the last lesson, whenever she would say these things to us she would immediately remind us of all we have going for us and it would instantly make us feel better. Sometimes you just need the proverbial smack in the head to realize how fortunate you are.

Don’t compare yourself to other people.

It’s so easy to forget about your own journey when you are always looking forward. This one goes hand-in-hand with being thankful for what you have. While being thankful for what you have, it’s okay to be working toward something but it isn’t okay to lose sight of your own path.

Take time to appreciate the little things.

This goes without saying but, the little things are what the big things are made of. Those little moments that don’t seem like a big deal at the time can be those great memories with people that you’ll always look back on fondly. Some of my favorite times of the day are the morning phone calls I have with my parents and the lazy cuddling & joking around Nate and I do on the couch at night.

Keep in touch with those you love.

Ever since I’ve moved, I’ve made more phone calls than I ever had in my life! Living 1,100 miles away make it all the more important to stay in touch with family and close friends. Outside of this year (being a special case with the weddings), I generally don’t make it home too often and so phone calls are pretty much all I have. At this point in my life, it is of the utmost importance to keep in touch with family and nuture friendships.

Take time out for yourself.

Sometimes stress can take over in ways bigger than imagined. In times like these, it’s important to remember that health and well-being are crucial to keeping a level head. I’m a huge fan of taking a long walk with the dog, getting immersed in a good read, or writing to de-stress.

Only surround yourself with those who are positive.

This is one of the biggest lessons I’ve taken from my mom. Too much time is wasted on people who aren’t worth it. Negativity can eat you alive and it’s best to get rid of toxicity before it takes over your life. It’s amazing just how rejuvenating it feels to be around those who only want to lift you up. I love meeting people who are brimming with new and fresh ideas. It’s so inspiring to only hear positive words and encouragement versus complaining. One of my goals in life is to be one of those people who others want to surround themselves with for positive energy.

Don’t wait until you’re older to loosen up, open up to people, and live a little.

One of the things my mom has taught me is to live in the moment and try new things. She has admitting on several occasions to taking herself too seriously when she was younger and not letting loose to enjoy what life has to offer. She tells me that her recent years have been the best of her life so far because she takes chances, tries new things, puts herself out there, and is constantly meeting new and interesting people.

Take time to genuinely listen to others.

My mom could talk to a hobo on the corner of the street for 5 hours. No joke. She’s really good at getting to know people and really immersing herself in the interesting stories they have to tell. You wouldn’t believe all of the things she tells me about these new and fascinating people! She is a huge believer in everyone having a story and that their stories should be told and therefore learned from. This has definitely inspired me to jump out of my little box to try getting to know people a little bit more.

 

 

Mom and I

So I want to wish a very Happy Mother’s Day to the person who has always been there through thick and thin to support me. This is a woman who has the power to illuminate lives and cause laughter and joy wherever she goes. I’m very proud to call her my mom.